Miyaki Yoon
What makes one a good parent?
Paise toh sautele maa-baap bi kharch kar hi dete hain jinhone bache ko godh liya hota hai. Par baat toh wahi aati hai ki tabdeeli kaunsi de rakhi ya phir kis tarah se bachon ko paal rakha aur bada kar rakha. Par jo seekh saghe waliden de paate hain, woh seekh aur kahin se nai mil sakti kyunki sautele waliden kuch aur bi seekha sakte. Sautele waliden saghon ki tarah tab hi achi seekh de sakte agar woh khud apni zimmevaari nibhane mein koi kasar na chhoden ya unki sachi mein fikar karen aur unko ek acha aur sacha insan bi bnana chahen toh.
Ek ahem aur sabse badi seekh jo bache sirf apne parivaar aur waliden se hi seekhte hain, woh hai Khuda ki izzat karna aur usko tahe dil se maante rehna saath hi saath apne mazhab aur baaki sabhi mazhabon ki bi betaha izzat karte rehna. Yeh seekh aur koi nai sirf saghe waliden hi de sakte hain. Sautele bi agar dena chahen toh unki seekh mein koi na koi kami toh niklegi hi.
English Translation:
Even foster, adoptive or stepparents usually do spend money on the children they’ve adopted. But the real question remains about the kind of change they’ve brought or how they’ve raised and nurtured the children. However, the lessons and upbringing that biological parents can provide are irreplaceable, as step-parents might teach something different. Step-parents can only impart good values if they fully commit to their responsibilities, genuinely care for the children, and wish to shape them into good and honest individuals.
A vital and significant lesson that children can only learn from their family and parents is to respect God wholeheartedly, to follow their own religion and also to respect all other religions immensely. This lesson can only be taught by biological parents. Even if step-parents wish to impart this, their teachings will inevitably have some shortcomings.
Khandani tana-bana mein, sautele waliden ki bhoomika aksar sochne layak mudda bankar ubharti hai. Aksar yeh dekha jaata hai ki sautele maa-baap saghe maa-baap ki tarah, na sirf maali taur par balki jazbaati taur par bhi apne bachon ki zindagi mein nivesh karte hain. Lekin jo cheez unka asar alag banati hai, woh hai bachon ko paal-posan aur unhe sahi raah dikhane ka apna anokha andaaz.
Saghe waliden ki ahmiyat ko maante hue, yeh zaroori hai ki hum sautele waliden ki koshishon ka bhi mulyankan karein. Saghe waliden ki parvarish aur seekh ka asar gehra aur dirgh-kal tak rehne wala hota hai. Yeh baat sautele waliden ki ahmiyat ko kam nahi karti, balki ek alag nazariya samne rakhti hai.
Waliden ki is badalti tasveer mein, dharm aur roohani moolyon ka sikhana bahut ahem hai. Saghe maa-baap aksar bachon ko Khuda ki izzat karna, apne dharm ko nibhana aur doosre dharmon ki bhi izzat karna sikhate hain. Yeh tarbiyat, jo khandani aur sanskritik riwayat mein gehri judi hoti hai, bachon ki pehchaan aur unka drishtikon banati hai.
Par yeh kehna sahi nahi hoga ki sautele waliden in shetron mein qeemti sabaq nahi de sakte. Unki taleem aur tajurbe, mukhtalif nazariyon se bhare hue, bachon ki samajh ko aur gehra karte hain aur unmein doosri paramparaon aur aqeedaon ke prati izzat paida karte hain. Unka andaaz-e-taleem alag zaroor hota hai, lekin unke apne jeevan anubhav se nikla hua hota hai.
Parvarish ki is kahani mein, dono — saghe aur sautele waliden — ahem kirdar ada karte hain. Unka yogdan, chahe fitrat mein alag ho, bachon ko ek poora, izzatdar aur samvedansheel insaan banane mein barabar ka mahatva rakhta hai. Yeh mukhtalif waliden ki mohabbat aur margdarshan ki vividhata hi bachon ko zindagi ke ameer tajurbe deti hai.
Aakhir mein, jab hum saghe waliden ki seekh, khaaskar roohani aur sanskritik tarbiyat ki qadr karte hain, tab humein sautele waliden ki alag aur utni hi ahem seekhon ko bhi sarahna chahiye. Yeh nazariyon ka sangam bachon ki parvarish ko aur bhi samriddh bana deta hai, unhe iss rang-birangi duniya mein zyada santulit, samajhdaar aur izzatdar insaan banata hai.
English Translation:
In the diverse tapestry of family dynamics, the role of step-parents often emerges as a topic of thoughtful discussion. It’s commonly observed that step-parents, like biological parents, invest in their children’s lives, not just financially but emotionally as well. However, what truly distinguishes their impact is the unique manner in which they nurture and guide their children.
While acknowledging the efforts of step-parents, it’s important to reflect on the distinct and irreplaceable role of biological parents. The upbringing and lessons from biological parents have a profound and lasting influence. This doesn’t diminish the value of what step-parents provide, but rather highlights a different perspective.
One of the key elements in this parental mosaic is the imparting of spiritual and religious values. Biological parents often have a unique approach to teaching respect for God, adherence to one’s own faith, and immense respect for other religions. This aspect of upbringing, deeply rooted in familial and cultural traditions, forms a core part of a child’s identity and worldview.
However, this is not to say that step-parents cannot offer valuable lessons in these areas. Their teachings, borne out of diverse experiences and perspectives, can enrich a child’s understanding and respect for various beliefs and practices. It’s just that their approach might have different nuances, shaped by their own life journeys.
In the grand narrative of parenting, both biological and step-parents play pivotal roles. Their contributions, while different in nature, are equally vital in shaping a well-rounded, respectful, and empathetic individual. It’s in this diversity of parental love and guidance that children find the richest lessons of life.
While we cherish the unique teachings of biological parents, especially in terms of spiritual and cultural upbringing, we also celebrate the diverse and equally important lessons that step-parents bring to the family dynamic. It’s this blend of perspectives that enriches a child’s upbringing, making them more adaptable, understanding, and respectful of the multifaceted world they inhabit.
Waliden ki in cheezon ke ilawa aur bi kayi seekh unk bachon ki zindagiyon mein bahut maayine rakhte hain. Jaise ki unhe har mod pe sahi maarg dikhate rehna, sahi aur galat mein farak btana, aur apni zimmevaariyon ko puri lagan se bakhoobi nibhate rehna. Unki zimmevaari sirf paise kharchne ya unhe kisi school ya college vagehra mein daakhil karane tak nai khatam hoti. Asli waliden woh hain jo apne bachon ki zindagiyon ke baare sahi dhang se aur pure dil aur ehtraam se unhe paas bithake puchen aur unki zindagiyon mein bi sacchi dilchaspi lete hain.
Asli waliden ki pehchaan unke pyaar aur zimmedari sirf paise kharchne ya school-college mein daakhil karne tak seemit nahi hoti. Unki asli pehchaan tab samne aati hai jab woh apne bachon ke saath khule dil se baat karte hain, unke khwab aur darr samajhne ki koshish karte hain, aur unki zindagi ke har mor par unhe raah dikhate hain. Aaj ke daur mein, sabse zyada zaroorat iss baat ki hai ki waliden sirf safalta par taali bajane wale na ban kar rah en, balki nakami aur pareshaani ke waqt bhi apne bachon ka haath tham kar unke saath chalne wale ban saken.
Jab bachche girte hain, toh unhe uthakar sambhalna aur unke dil ko hosla dena hi asal maa-baap ki farz aur mohabbat hai. Yehi woh cheez hai jo aaj ke waqt mein sabse zyada kami mehsoos hoti hai.
English Translation:
Apart from these aspects, many other lessons hold great importance in a child’s life. For instance, constantly guiding them on the right path, teaching them to distinguish between right and wrong, and fulfilling responsibilities with complete dedication. Parental duties do not end with simply spending money or enrolling their children in schools and colleges. True parents are those who sincerely and respectfully talk to their children about their lives, sit with them, ask questions, and take a genuine inte rest in their journeys.
The true identity of parents is not defined by spending money or enrolling their children in schools and colleges alone. It is revealed when they open their hearts to honest conversations with their children, try to understand their dreams and fears, and guide them at every crossroads of life.
In today’s times, the greatest need is for parents to move beyond being cheerleaders of success and instead become steady companions in failure and hardship. When children fall, true parents are the ones who lift them up, give them courage, and walk with them through their struggles. This is the essence of love and responsibility in parenthood, and sadly, this is what is most lacking in today’s world.
