Miyaki Yoon
In the intimate spaces of our family haven, where joy once echoed, there arose moments that tested the fortitude of our familial ties. As the solitary child, bearing the mantle of emotional support for my parents proved to be a journey through both challenge and poignant revelation.
During tense evenings, emotions lingered thick in the air, weaving a tapestry of frustration and heartache. Witnessing my parents grapple with adversity brought a unique weight to my shoulders. Blame, like an uninvited guest, found its way into our conversations, not sparing even the ones closest. In those challenging periods, the instinct to escape flirted with my thoughts, yet a daughter’s love tethered me. Rather than running away, my yearning transformed into a commitment to ease their burden, to create a sanctuary where blame held no dominion. The delicate dance between frustration and compassion became a testament to the resilience of love, navigating the tempests while fortifying the unbreakable bonds that held our family together.
Zaruri nahi ki hamare maa-baap ya waliden ko hamare maadi support ki hi zarurat ho, ek pal ka saath ya kuch chhan lamhon ki gftagu bi kaafi hoti hain. Aksar hum log apne purvaj ya buzurgon ko ya toh akela chhod jaate hain ya unhe kisi vriddh ashram bhej dete hain. Hum bache yeh sochna bhool jaate hain, ki wahi cheez hamare saath bi ho sakti hai. Aaj humne apne buzurghon ko chhoda hai, kal hamare bache humen chhod jaayenge. Aur puchne pe woh hamari khud ki hi karni yaad dilaayenge.
Insan ko apni galtiyon ka ehsaas tabhi hi hota hai, jab usko khud maar padti hai. Usse pehle woh galtiyon ko hi lagataar dohraata rehta hai, jab tak un galtiyon ka bhaar hadd se ziada bhar nai jaata. Thik usi tarah, apne vriddh maa-baap ko chhodne ki galti bhi usi waqt samne aati hai, jab insaan ke khud ke bache hi use akela chhod jaate hain.
English Translation:
It’s not necessary that our parents or elders require only our tangible support; a moment’s companionship or a few shared moments are often sufficient to provide them with the support they need. Often, we either leave our forebears to face solitude or send them off to an elderly care facility. In doing so, we children tend to forget that the same fate might befall us. Today, we have bid farewell to our elders, but tomorrow our own children may part ways with us, gently reminding us of our own actions.
Humans truly grasp the weight of their mistakes only when they experience the consequences firsthand. Before that, they tend to perpetually evade those errors, persisting until the burden of those mistakes becomes overwhelmingly heavy. Similarly, the blunder of forsaking our elderly parents confronts us precisely when our own children abandon us, leaving us to confront the poignant echoes of our own decisions.
Waliden ki khidmat karne ke nazuuk safar mein kayi baar kuch pal aisa aate hain jab hamare khandon pe woh zimma itna bhaari lagta hai ki jis pyaar aur tawajju se woh humen bachpan mein sambhala karte the, woh bi waqt ke saath halka pad jaata hai. Iklauti beti aur bache hone ke naate, apne waliden ke liye jazbaati sahara hone ka khirdaar nibhaana na hi sirf imtihan ke baraabar hai balki ek tarah se khulasa bi hai.
Zindagi ke is nazuuk aur uljhi hui rahon se guzarte hue, apne waliden se jude rishton naaton ko pehchaanna behadd zaruri hai ki woh sirf zimma uthane tak mehdood nai hai, balki yeh un naqsh ki tarah hain jo mohabbat, samajh aur saanjhe lamhon ke dhaagon se bune hue hain. Roz ki bhaag-daur se bhari zindagi mein unki chhan zarurton ko hum aksar maadi samajh baiththe hain, par saath hi bhool jaate hain ki ek saanjhi hasi ya saadhi guftagu bi unhe jazbaati sahara dene ki taaqat rakhti hai jiske liye woh muntazir rehte hain.
English Translation:
In the intricate dance of caregiving for our parents, there are moments when the weight on our shoulders feels heavier than the love that once lifted us as children. As a lone daughter, embracing the role of an emotional anchor unravels as both a challenge and a revelation.
As we traverse the intricate labyrinth of life, it becomes essential to recognize that the relationship with our parents transcends mere responsibility; it is a tapestry woven with threads of love, understanding, and shared moments. Amidst the hustle, it’s easy to misinterpret their needs as purely practical, forgetting that a shared laugh or a simple conversation holds the power to offer the emotional support they yearn for.
Insan aksar beikhtiyaar apne buzurg waliden ko ya toh tanha aur akela chhod jaata hai ya phir unhe kisi vriddh ashram le jaata hai baaki ki bachi zindagi waha guzar saken. Yeh hum bachon ke liye nihayti sabse ahem mod hai rukne aur is faisle pe ghour karne ke liye. Aaj hum apne waliden ko alvida kar rahe hain, thik usi tarah, hamare bache bi aane wale waqt mein hamare saath wahi salook karenge. Unse is tarah se yun bichad jaana na hi sirf haqeeqi doori hogi, par yeh hamari karni ka sabse dardnaak aur yaad-dihani bi banegi.
Apne buzurg waliden ko akele chhodne ka bhaar tab hi mehsoos hota hai jab hamare saath hi hamare apne hi bache wahi galti dohrate hain. Jaise insaan hamesha apni ghaltiyon ko talta rehta hai jab tak ke unke nataij bardasht se bahar na ho jaayen, waise hi buzurg waliden ko chhod dena bhi us waqt pachtawa ban kar saamne aata hai jab hum khud apni zindagi mein tanhaai mehsoos karte hain. Yeh ehsaas bhale hi dhed se ho, lekin hamari yeh galti apne kiye ke nataij ka saamna karne pe majboor kardeti hai.
English Translation:
Often, we unintentionally tread the path of leaving our elders to solitude or, in extreme cases, entrusting them to elderly care facilities. It’s a crucial juncture for us as children to pause and reflect on this inclination. Today, as we bid farewell to our parents, we must be mindful that tomorrow our own children might follow a similar trajectory. Their departure won’t just signify a physical separation but will serve as a poignant reminder of the choices we make today.
The gravity of abandoning our elderly parents becomes palpable when we witness our own children making the same mistakes as us. Similar to the perpetual avoidance of personal mistakes until their consequences become unbearable, forsaking our elderly parents emerges as a regret only when we experience the echoes of solitude in our lives. This realization, though belated, compels us to confront the repercussions of our actions.
Waliden ki duaon mein hi hamare liye asli madadgar chupi hoti hai. Unka pyaar, hamare dil ko choo jata hai aur unki mehnat, hamare kandhon par woh bojh nahi banati jo ham utha nahi sakte. Yeh ek aesa rishta hai jo samay ke sath mazboot hota hai.
Bachon ko sahi aur galat ka farq samajhana waliden ka sab se ahem farz hai. Unka tawajju aur rehnumai bachon ko zindagi mein aage badhne mein madad karte hain. Waliden ke sath waqt guzarna, bachon ko apne dil ki baat kehne ka hosla deta hai, aur yeh rishta mohabbat aur samajh par mabni hota hai.
English Translation:
In the tapestry of life, our parents’ prayers emerge as the truest ally, offering genuine assistance. Their love resonates with our hearts, and their toil refrains from burdening our shoulders beyond what we can bear. It’s a relationship that fortifies itself over time.
Understanding the distinction between right and wrong is the most crucial responsibility and duty of parents. Their attention and guidance assist children in advancing in life. Spending time with parents not only provides the courage to express one’s heart but also builds a relationship founded on love and understanding.
Akheer mein, yeh samajhna zaroori hai ke waliden sirf zimmedari nahi, balki Khuda ka diya hua sabse bara tohfa hain. Unki qadr karna, unka saath dena aur unki duaon se apni zindagi roshan karna hi hamara asal farz hai. Agar hum aaj unhe apne dil aur saath se nawazenge, to kal hamare bachche bhi humare liye wahi misaal qayam karenge.
English Translation:
In the end, it is essential to recognize that parents are not merely a responsibility but the greatest gift bestowed upon us. Honoring them, standing by them, and embracing the blessings of their prayers is our true duty. If we shower them with love and companionship today, tomorrow our own children will follow the same example for us.
